Do you ever do this? A friend calls to ask you for coffee on a Saturday morning, but you just don’t want to hang out with them, so you offer some kind of excuse that sounds better than the truth? Or maybe, you call in sick to work, but really you just wanted the day off for other things? Or, you have hard feelings towards another member at church, but each time you see them you smile and waive like all is well?
There are countless scenarios where we, as believers, tell little white lies (if there is such a thing) to avoid hurting feelings or hide what’s really going on in our hearts. Why do we do this? Why not just be real? Just lay it out there, warts and all!
The problem is fear.
What if we get hurt? What if we hurt someone else? What if they say no? What if I tell them how I feel, and they get angry? What if they reject me?
We are scared to death of the “what ifs!
But, “God didn’t give us a spirit that is timid but one that is powerful, loving, and self-controlled.” (2 Timothy 1:7 CEB) Even more, he commands us to worship Him in Spirit and in truth. Since everything we do should be an act of worship, even in how we handle our relationships, then we must aim to be real with one another. Say the hard things, but say them in love. Be honest, even when it costs something.
When we dare to be real, we begin to live fearless!