The Bible tells us that,
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” – 2 Corinthians 5:17, NKJV
I’m working on a chapter in my book about breaking the cycle of shame for survivors of abuse. It’s all about overcoming negative behavior learned from our parents, or other authority figures in our lives growing up. It applies well to anyone’s life, whether abused or not. We are all at risk in some way, whether parents, pastors, grandparents, aunts, uncles, educators or family friends…we all have the power to greatly influence the next generation.
Without Jesus, we risk passing on our pain instead of God’s promise.
Neither of my parents intended for me to be hurt, damaged, abused, or wounded as a child. It wasn’t their plan to inflict or allow these things in my life. They were simply operating out of what they learned from their parents. They experienced abuse, and became abusers themselves.
While we may not intend to, we can easily pick up what is passed down to us: whether good or bad. If abused in some way as children, the odds are greatly stacked against us to become bitter, hard, and angry. Just living in this world we will experience pain and hardships that shape our thinking and drive certain behavior.
If we choose to remain in the mindset of a victim we can open ourselves up to an array of issues like selfishness, indulgence, laziness, addiction, depression, isolation, self-mutilation, violence, and other abusive tendencies. This is not an exhaustive list, but you get the idea.
When we place our hope in Jesus Christ, everything changes.
Strongholds are broken.
All things become new.
We don’t have to continue in a negative cycle, because Jesus gives us a way out. We don’t have to live like victims of someone else’s sin, because we are made victorious in Jesus Christ. He makes “all things new.”
Our part is to simply believe in, trust, and take hold of the “new” life Christ has given us. Daily letting go of past hurts, taking up our Cross and following him.
I’m thankful for Christ. So very thankful he gave me a way out of the cycle of shame in my family. What he has done for me, he will do for you, friend.